First meeting of Daddy and Baby

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A restless father who came from a long trip (Europe to Philippines) is very excited to see his son, when my husband arrived in NAIA (Ninoy Aquino International Airport) Manila Philippines, he did call me to inform that he is already in manila, for we are staying in Cebu a province far away from manila and he need to go home by plain for an hour just to see his family. He told me about his arrival time in Cebu International Airport. So in that case we meet him in the airport and how excited I am to see my husband again. But of course his face is full of smile especially when he meets our baby. He put all his things in the compartment of the car and when we are inside the car he is the one who cuddle our baby and he keeps on seeing, smiling, hugging the baby with the unconditional feelings he felt on that moment. Then we arrived home. We put all his baggage in the corner and the baby on that time is sleeping and the baby lay down in the bed with full of happiness in his face that he already meet his daddy. After I prepare the foods we eat together in the table making story while eating and then take a rest. It’s time to sleep! I told to my husband, and both of us smile each other for we both know what will happen when we are already together in bed. And when we are already in bed we turn off the lights and only the two of us knows what is happening in the middle of the dark.

Getting started as mom

Every woman in this wildest word if we get married most of us becomes a mother. And to be honest we have a difficult time in getting started to be a mom, so I did ask from my friends on how things goes on. As a mom we need to cuddle our infants sometimes especially when the baby is crying because the baby can feel the love of a mom and they need to have a skin to skin contact, baby can smell if she is your mom, when the baby cries then the mom cuddle the baby automatically stop crying. And that’s one of my experiences. We need to be a family nurse also coz there are times that our baby get sick even mild only and we don’t need to go to the doctor, any way we can have it a first aid treatment. But we need to visit our pediatricians monthly or as the baby needed. A also gives a breastfeeding to my baby boy for I believe that our own milk is the best milk I can give to my son, but if we don’t have enough milk maybe we can choose milk that fit for our babies needs. But take note we need to take a look at when buying a milk the expiry date labeled in the can for one time I bought an expired milk and God is good that before I mixed, I take a look at the label and the milk that I bought is already expired. Choosing also the right kind of medicines or vitamins is necessary if possible we must ask our pediatricians for good recommendations before buying. These are simple tips only and experiences that I can share. Being a new mom is exciting.

Way of Responsibility

The individuals born are destined to learn the lessons of responsibility. Coming into this life with a nature that is freedom – loving and rebellious, these individuals rail against all limitations. Thus, it is the nature to avoid responsibility. However it is precisely the duty and accountability deriving from the acceptance of responsibility that will fulfill their destiny and lead them to a true sense of independence.

Yes, this is what I’ve learned that we need to be responsible in every thing we do especially now that I have already a baby I need to be a responsible mother to my son, for most of the time of my husband is in ship for work I’m all alone here in the house with my baby. It’s not easy to be alone in the house we need to be strong, to discipline our baby for it good to discipline them when they are still young for they can stored to there minds what are the good things need to do to be a strong man and a good children to their parents because time will come that they will be growing up and they learned already the good teaching that their parents have told them before when they are still young. So it is our great reward for us being a parent to see our children growing up with a good sense of humor and a responsible

Going Home after giving birth

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Preparing for the going home with my baby is an excitement for all of us. After the doctor told me that me and my baby is already ok and we can go home any time. My mom and my auntie the sister of my mother go immediately downstairs to the casher area to settle our hospital bills and after a few minutes they are already in our room and they told me everything is already cleared and we can now go home to our house. In the room while they are keeping all the things, I go slowly go down in my bed and trying to fix myself and so with the baby. Everything is done, said my auntie. I am already ready I told to them, then my mom get my baby and she is the one who carry the baby until we get in the car and until going home. While in the car I told the driver to drive slowly for my caesarian operation is quite painful, and the baby smile at me full of happiness being a mom to see the baby smiling. And after few minutes ride we are home and my relatives are very happy to see us safe and of course seeing the baby, they coddle the baby with full of love and excitement. At long last I am home I set in the sofa and relaxed. The telephone ring! My husband is calling and how happy he is that we are already home and safe, and he is also excited to see the baby soon for his contract of work is going to end and longing soon to see the baby and of course the mommy.

First day beside my Baby

Excited. Is the only word I defined my self on the day when my baby put beside me by the nurses. Full of happiness in my heart, and at last after giving birth my baby boy is already beside me, I always hug my baby and feed him with my own milk, and I see my self have tears in my eyes thru the happiness that I felt. My mom is also very excited and she is the one who carry always my baby whenever he cries. Some of my husband’s relatives visited me in the hospital and they keep on joking at me. Many jokes we keep on laughing, but my caesarian wound is painful whenever my body moves, so I told them not too much jokes for I can‘t hold the pain in my tummy. They keep on story telling until such time that I take a nap. I did not even know that the relatives of my husband go home already for they did not awake me. After a few hours, from a long, long time of sleep I awake and I feel hungry and needs something to eat, so I call my mom who is always beside me that I want to eat something, then my mom get a bread on the table and have some cheese inside.

When I am watching my baby who is beside me, I was shocked and alarmed for my babies navel has a blood we automatically called in the nurses station what did happen to my son’s navel, then the nurses come to our room and check it, the tie of the navel was loosen, said the nurse. Then they called the doctor to fix it, I am watching my baby while the doctor keep o fixing the navel, and after a few minutes I t was already done, and my baby is already ok. What a shocking experienced good that I see my baby have blood in his navel for it is very delicate if I did not see it. I don’t know what will happen to my cute baby.

Days in the hospital

Life is a gift given to us by God. As my stay in the hospital I said to my self, how lucky I am that I have already a baby of my own. But on that time I did not see yet my baby for I can‘t stand, I have a catheter in mine that makes me more painful if I move, so every move that I take I feel pain even it’s my 2^nd day after delivery, I remember my husband, “where are you” I ask to my self. It’s our life being a seaman’s wife every time we deliver our sibling husband is not in our side. Why? For the contract of my husband is ten (10) months and remember nine months pregnancy so they can‘t really attend the delivery of their wife. I said to my self it’s my life.

It’s my second day in the hospital but still I did not see yet my baby, so I try to stand with the help of my mom and make a peep to my baby which is in the nursery room. I’m so happy seeing my baby for the first time, speechless and full of happiness I fell. After seeing my baby boy I slowly walk to my bed with full of smile in my heart

Life after Giving Birth

During those, painful hours when I’m already awake after a caesarian operation delivery; I’m lying in my bed and trying to move, but I felt painful in everything I can’t move I’m trying to move my feet but I can’t, even my face, only my mind works and asking to my self “am I ok?” I take a nap and after a few hours or maybe two (2) hours I try again moving my feet and little by little I can move it now then my hands, I ask the people around me where I am and they told me I am in the recovery area. Then, after that I was transferred to my room and my mom and other relatives are waiting for me and they are very happy to see me I’m ok. But I am limited to talk for it’s very painful in my part when I talk because the wound in my tummy is so sakit (painful) even if I laugh I can’t, Then time come that I felt thirsty I want to drink water but the doctor told me not to drink a water for its not yet time, All they do is they get cotton and put a small water on it and wipe my lips so that I can’t feel thirsty. They keep on telling stories about what did they do when I’m inside the delivery room but I was transferred to the operating room, mom said she keep on praying in the chapel until such time I was ok. Yes, I felt it being a mother because I know it’s not so easy to become a mom. Our life is between life and death.

Delivering my First Baby

One early morning, while I’m still lying in my bed I felt something different feelings that I can’t explain, I call my mother who is with me on that time. ( For I ask an assistance from my mother to be with me when my delivery is past approaching for my mother is staying far from me and they are living in the province and they need to ride in a ship just to be with me. And she needs also to file a leave from her work for my mom is still working being a school principal.)

So on that early morning my mom asks me if what is happening to me. I told my mom that my stomach is aching and maybe I’ll be going to deliver now my baby. So my mom for she has a nervous she don’t know what to do but after a few minutes my mom call a taxi and we run directly to the hospital. When we are already in the hospital the in charge put me in the wheel chair and run directly to the delivery room and the nurses and doctors take in charge with me. While lying in the bed waiting for my delivery, I felt restless with the pain I had. It takes almost 12 hours before the doctor told me to have a caesarian operation for the baby is running out of breath and so me, so I my self take a signature on the paper that the doctor gave me to have signed and the operation will start. The doctor gave me an ejection until such time that I didn’t know what happen to me.

Seaman’s Wife

Being a wife of a seaman is quite lonely, coz most of the time we are alone in the house, good that there are children to talk to, what if we have an ideas to share, to talk to them, someone to lay on. Good that as of this day’s communication is not a hindrance of being far apart from each other for anytime we can have our email or chat sometimes if they have an internet signals.

For me before having a baby inside my womb is not easy most of the time we need our husband to be with us, but what ca we do we are very far from each other, so I need to adjust the fact that he is working for the good future of our family. One day, we have a problem with our sink in the kitchen, the water stock up and I don’t know what to do for I don’t have any idea on how to fixed it, but no one can be called for my relatives are staying far from me. So I get the tools in the cabinet and I start fixing on how the water can flows down and God is good that I made it. So there is no impossible if we will try only how to work even it is a work of a boy. For me a man’s work is also a woman’s work, if others can do so why can’t I.

Working Daddy

Vacation is over for my husband, and he need to work to earn for our living. His company called him to report immediately in the office for he is badly needed to work in ship. My husband is a seaman he worked far from his family, he stay in ship for ten (10) months and take a vacation for two to three months. Working away from home is not easy there are times there are big strong waves that they encounter , working with other people is not easy we need also to adjust that’s the only key to have a good relationship to each and everyone of us. Most of the time they feel loneliness, yes and that’s normal but they need to fight for the sake of their family who left at home. Our only way of communicating is thru net email, chatting sometimes voice chat but it depends upon the signal of their net .We can chat only if their ship is near in the port for it is hard also to capture their signal when they are on (byahi) or they are at the middle of the ocean. So when the have time to chat or call, email they do for they really missed their family who left at home. Most people say that having a husband that is a seaman only 10 % succeed with their marriage 90 % broke up. Why it happens because it depends to the both party on how to handle their relation. We must have a full trust , love and understanding to each other so that everything goes stronger .