Parenthood is Naturally Problematic

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The ultimate goals that parents have for their children are the immediate goals they have for themselves; Self-control and self sufficiency. It’s important for parents to understand that they operate to a timetable that’s different from their children’s and that each child’s ability to learn is unique.

Like my kids now it is quite a head ache if I really get serious about their attitudes being a kid, as days goes by I learned to my self that kids are really kids they do what they want to do and play if they likes to play and sometimes they get hurt with each other and both of them are crying so of course being a parent and a mother I ask them what did happen and both were having their own alibis and stories they want to be always perfect and no mistakes so what I did is that told them to forgive each other and not to do it again so that no one will cry and they will only enjoy their games to the best that they can. So both of them hug each other and say sorry for what have they done and not to do it again.

When dealing with kids temper for example, parents are not only attempting to restore calm and order to our household, we also trying to teach our kids how to handle frustrations and anger in a more appropriate way. Parents must model the kind of behavior they want to teach and must be also communicate our kids their values in ways that make the values as important for our kids as they are for themselves.

Preparing for a new Business

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In my everyday life I am thinking of what business that fits for now a day especially we are suffering a global crises and everyone tighten their belts in order to save for what is only important is what only they buy for their needs.

That is why just yesterday I did open a new (sari-sari) variety store near the market area for I know that there are a lots of people come and go in that place to buy something that is needed for their daily consumption. Foods, daily needs are currently people’s priority now a day, that’s why I really love to open that kind of business and also a nice place too.

Just last night we did inventory all the items that are put on the store for display and it’s quite a hard time for us to hands on the beautification of the store to attract costumers.

In this time of crises if we don’t worked both husband and wife or helping one another how to survive I don’t think if we can make life easier.

And planning to open a new business must have a business plan first on what to do, where to open, the people who will manage, the place if it fits your product, and must be a prone to people. And that’s the place now where I open my store along the road and a market place with people come and goes.

Being a Real Person

being a real person

The central business of every human being is to be a real person. We possess by nature the factors out of which personality can be made, and to organize them into effective personal life is every man’s primary responsibility.

Without exaggeration it can be said that frustrated, unhappy people, who cannot match themselves with life, constitute the greatest single tragedy in the world. In mansion and hovel, among the uneducated and in university faculties, under every kind of circumstance people entrusted with building their own personalities are making a mess of it, thereby plunging into an earthly hell.

Three elements enter into a building of personality; heredity environment and personal response. We are not responsible for our heredity; much of our environment we cannot control; but the power to face life with an individual rejoinder that we are responsible for.

Many escape a sense of personal responsibility by lapsing into a mode of emotional fatalism. This is curiously, one of most comfortable moods in which a man can live. If he is automation, he is not responsible for anything.

On the highest level man’s desire to escape responsibility express itself in ascribing all personal qualities to heredity and environment.

When we succeed, when by dint of decision and effort we achieve a desire end, we are sure we had a share in that. We cannot slough off responsibility when we fail. We cannot eat our cake and have it too.

The beginning of worthwhile living is thus to comfort ourselves –unique beings, each of us entrusted with the makings of personality. Yet multitudes of people wrestle with every conceivable factor involve in the human situation before they face their primary problem- themselves. One of my friend a physician told to his patient saying ‘”This is a very serious case; I am afraid you’re allergic to yourself.”

When You Talk to a Child

child love

love you child

When introduce to a five year old child, many adults show than uneasiness observable otherwise only when a well-fed man is confronted with a tiger on half rations. Time and again have been amazed to see how inept many otherwise competent people become when they encounter a live child.

Some of our acquaintances, for instance, are struck speechless when we introduce our young nephew. But far more a problem are the garrulous adults who insist upon ‘the little darling’ leaving us with a youngster who requires an hour of heavy handling before he becomes a reasonably civilized creature once more.

Don’t talk baby talk! In spite of the fact that you know better you probably do it more often that you think. It is an insult to anyone to be taunted with his own imperfect speech. The child wants to learn your way of speaking, not to see how well you can imitate and mock his infantile pronunciation.

Don’t try to be silly. When confronted with a child, most adults are silly enough, without deliberately using silliness as a form of entertainment to cover their in ability to deal with the situation. Say that you have to say to the youngster. And then stop.

Children can be fun, a pleasure to themselves and to all they meet. They can be also a source of embarrassment and annoyance, of humiliation and man’s deepest grief. They want earnestly, to learn to live in an adult world; they look up at all grownups, therefore, to teach them how to achieve this goal. It is inescapable responsibility of every adult to do all that he can to help each child he meets in his effort to achieve maturity.

Change Your Pace

change of pace

All of us have experienced at one time or another feeling of renewal that comes from a change of pace. We maybe walking or driving along slowly and some things happen that makes as speed up. New sensations occur; new thoughts across the mind. We become more alert, or we have been walking breathlessly beyond our pace there is a felling of relief, even repose in slowing down.

The pace that kills is the pace that never changes; frequent changes of pace will keep us from tedium on one hand or apoplexy on the other.

For most of us change of pace means slowing down, but in many activities we should speed up, we may walk and talk too fast but think and worked slowly.

I have a nephew whose slowness is the despair of his teachers, not to mention his kin. At the age of nine he gets his worked done in his own good time. The other morning his mother suggested with wisdom that he write a letter before going to school. His other letters had taken as much as a day, off and on to compose. In this case, his time was limited in 20 minutes in which to write his grandmother everything he could think of. The result was the best letter he had ever done. It was the change of pace that did it, by putting emphasis upon the preciousness of time and the importance of using it to maximum effect.

On the other hand, on the busy days try slowing down instead of speeding up. Linger over breakfast; pretend that you have a lifetime for the many things which must be crowded in before night. Live at slow motion. Instead of racing, make yourself stroll and, paradoxically. When evening comes you will have actually done more work than if you had pushed yourself.

Prevention is Better than Cure

Prevention is Better than Cure

Tired body and head ache is what I felt now a days. I don’t know what my sick is for I take already medicines and have a body massage still I feel tired and not feeling well. My friend says that I am over fatigue for I am a type of person that is workaholic if I have extra time I did anything to make me busy and maybe my body surrender and needs time to rest. But if I will not be cured for until tomorrow maybe I need to visit our family doctor for some good advice.

It is very hard in my part that even though I am not feeling well but still I need to drive for my kids in going back and forth in school for I don’t have my husband with me for now for he is working away from home. This is the life of a seaman’s wife if the husband is out and if we have worked to taken care of and the wife is sick it is very hard to do good if we have our brothers or sister with us but in my case me only and my pretty maid is in the house with my kids. So if I have a boy’s job I called the tricycle driver in the subdivision to fix for sometimes there thing that only boys can fix and girls cannot.

But I need to strong all the time for the good of my family and better to have a check up in the doctor for some clarification of my health.

How to avoid Work

hard work great job

Is your job work or fun? If it is a work you would probably be wise on how to get of it before another month ends. Work is doing something you don’t enjoy doing. Our life is too short and too valuable to fritter away on a job that bores you or forces you to be with people you don’t like, or calls for a knack you haven’t got.

Yet all my observations indicate that a majority of people even her in the Philippines that are dissatisfied with their jobs and wish they were doing something else. I see accountants who wish they were teachers or explorers, or salesmen who wish they were cabinetmakers and an computer programmer who wish to be an engineer.

A person in a job he dislikes reacts by being moody and nervous. He becomes tired easily and is a victim of indigestion and insomnia. As he continuous to feel frustrated he becomes rebellious, grows sour on the world.

In many cases it maybe impracticable to make an abrupt changes of jobs. But it is always possible to test your desire out first by studying and experimenting in another field during your spare time. Then draw up a plan whereby you can shift the emphasis from one career to the other over a period of time.

Award Winning

the prize "Mr. Photogenic"

The most awaited result and the price of my sacrifices has come to an end, the announcements of the winners. After their ramp modeling on the stage they let the candidates take a short rest and there is an intermission number also while the board of judges was still computing for the results. It’s late evening now and my son feel sleepy but then the result was not yet announced I cuddle my baby and I start making a story just to let my baby awake for they will still go to the stage for the final walk and the result of the competition. After a long time waiting the candidates was called by the emcee to go up on the stage and my son awake and run to the stage for he is also excited for the result. One by one they are called for the especial awards but when my son was called and he was awarded as Mr. Photogenic my hearts jump and I stand and clap proud of my son, meaning he is the most handsome above all contestant.

I told to my self this is the prize of my sacrifices and all of my tired eyes and body was blown when I go up on stage and gave him the trophy. When we are on our way home my son told me that he is the winner and he is happy holding his trophy all the way to our home even though he take a nap on the car still he is holding his trophy. And I felt happy also about the situation for my son is happy mommy also is very happy.

The Pageants Night

This is the night we’ve been waiting for, according to the emcee of the program. The stage is nice with the decoration decorated by the teachers and the kids are very ready with their modeling presentation on their different attire.

Production wear is their first costume and during that time they are told to dance and cute kids are dancing on the stage.

production attire

After the show they change their attire to Festival attire and they show their different festival wear representing different community or place. They ramp again on stage and i choose my son to wear a Bakasi festival the very own of Cordova, Cebu Festival.

Festival attire

The next attire is the  formal wear and as i look at my son he is already a big boy wearing a coat and tie. The pageants night go on with a lots of presentations  from different levels.

formal wear

Being a proud mommy to my son, i also encourage you dear parents to enhance whatever talents we have our children.

Foundation Day Presentation

During the foundation day celebration all students were having their respective part and teach by their respective teachers. On that early morning we prepare early fixed everything with their colors of t-shirts to be wear and the snacks to eat for they will be having a whole day affair. In the morning they were having their motorcade in the whole nearest street in their campus the after the motorcade they were given a five minutes break time to have the pupils take their snacks. The people are very busy and so I am for I have three pupils including my niece. They both have their dance presentation even though the heat of the sun starts to shine. But the first part of their program was the presentation of candidates on different levels and my son is one of them. The music starts to play and my son starts to ramp, the audience are clapping their hands and smiling for the kids are very cute with their attire and cute in modeling on the stage, being a proud mom I am very busy getting pictures and videos until they are done.

When the dance presentation starts with the whole class of nursery to grades school am very busy getting pictures and proud to tell to everybody how proud mommy I am with my kids. And this is just a fewer part of their presentation that their daddy was missed due to their dad was working away from home.