How To Discipline Our Children
Discipline is a matter of obvious concern to both parents and children. Discipline based on temper tends to be associated with undesirable outcomes. But, disciplining our children starts in our home for it is a place of happiness and fun. Our children can easily stored in their minds the good teaching that parents are developing to their children, and we as the parents should learn and determine the goal of a family life in a matter of disciplining and parents ought to judgment should prevail in every home.
Some of our child specialists agree that consistency of discipline is exceedingly important and this is true because children often forget what we teach from them, it is a vital fact that we should follow up our children’s behavior every now and then so that when they grow up they will become a better person and a responsible one. Children cannot be understood easily without some knowledge I our homes. Home discipline is very important in determining that kind of family and a child has.
Sometimes, we as parents disagree on the methods of discipline. Probably the most common trouble that we encounter in our homes is a parental selfishness in some form. The most important tie to be cherished between parents and our children as a means to the solutions to all our problems is good fellowship. Old fashion kindness is sometimes the chief ingredient leading to such a sympathetic understanding that will induce our child to bring their problems to us, as their parents.
Home discipline is therefore directly related to self-control and it is here that all discipline should have both its beginning and its end, and a well discipline homes is a place where consideration for the feelings and rights of others that all the members of the family prevails.
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Gary Unruh MSW LCSW
June 12th, 2010 at 5:11 pm
You hit the nail square on the head when you commented, “a well disciplined home is a place where consideration for the feelings and rights of others that all the members of the family prevails.”
After forty years as a child mental health counselor, it’s crystal clear that consideration of a child’s feelings is the first step for effective discipline. Here’s the best way I’ve found to make sure you focus on kid’s feelings first and then discipline.
Four-year-old Adam hits his sister. Before disciplining you say, “Adam you were really upset with Eva and handled your upset by hitting. What made you so upset?” (You might need to do this after Adam calms down.) Discipline works a lot better with this feelings first approach.
Feelings cause what a kid does. When you deal with feelings, a kid feels valued and understood. A huge side benefit: you are teaching your child how to care for others-empathy. Empathy is what makes relationships flourish. Good relationships are the key to happiness.
Thanks for the great article.