Our Family Today and Tomorrow

Family is the basic unit of our society; it displays the great solidarity because it is the nuclear unit around which social activities are organized. Our greatest aim in our family is to have an ideal one where all members of the family enjoy rest, have peace of mind comfort and happiness or a place of understanding and security. It is important that we the mother and the father will show a good example to our children and form the ideals of manhood and womanhood. The family is where one first discovers the love of a person for another, thus creating an ideal family life which becomes a model of learning through transmission of culture from generation to generation.

Every women have different place at home especially Filipino women, that of maintaining success and happiness of the family. We are expected to devote our time fully to care our home and our family as well, besides the belief of the Filipinos that the only divine duty of the women is to rear children.

There are many working mothers today that there is a close partnership between the father and the mother who shares home management and work interest. There is increased sharing of joint responsibility. The double earning can improve every home and provide our children a better education. We both work hard and help our husband and wife so that we can give all the best for the needs of our children, because if we all depend to our husband sometimes we are out of budget and we do always minimize our expenses for our daily consumption. But if both will work together both husband and wife maybe we can have an extra budget and we can unwind with our family during weekends and holidays.

In case of conflict between home and work, we the mother must give priority of our family responsibilities. Some mothers prefer to work part time work in order to be at home when the children some from school and that is what I am doing now. I don’t want to live my children in the hand of the nanny, I want them to grow under my love and care that is why I gave up my profession just to attend the growing of my children and assist them in their school works and assignments.

The needs of growing children for security and for spiritual, emotional and physical care are crucial factors in the chores of a plain housewife. There is danger in neglecting real values and giving our children less time and more money. This is not to exclude the fact that we have to maintain good relationship with our husband.

Some professional women’s function is that of homemaking. The bearing the rearing of children comes first in their lives. Many times, professional trained women have to give up the practice of their professions in order to give full time to their families. Some women go through colleges and schools in order to prepare better themselves to take care of the home and not primarily to practice their professions.

In many countries women are expected to give their time to their homes. They cannot divorce themselves from the duties in spite of their work outside their homes. These present days, parent should be parent, devoted, hardworking and responsible. Gone were the days when we are being strict parents to our children guaranteed that they will be obedient children in the future. On the other hand that is has been proven and tested that mothers of the children who excel n leadership are more loving than those who are non leaders and that parental over protectiveness fosters over dependence in our children. Moreover, children from homes where parents are permissive are found to be resourceful, cooperative and self reliance. They show perseverance and could assume responsibilities.

Another point is that there is considerable evidence that a home environment is related to measured levels of child intelligence and the school environment. The evidence suggests that maternal education level is the strongest predictor of a child’s achievements. With my own observation that studies that are related to parental disciplinary patterns state that parental acceptance is considered to an import determinant of positive child outcomes. Parental acceptance are much more conductive to child learning and positive development that every parents’ hostility or physical punishment.

With this concept, it is interesting to note that recent findings show that marital infidelity seems to have becomes more open. Mistresses seem to be accepted buy society as they appear on many televisions and other entertainment industry with various celebrities discussing the situation. Movies often have the theme of infidelity on the art of wives. This situation was not accepted before. In the situations today, various factors in society may promote permissiveness. All this contribute to infidelity.

Since married oversea workers compromise almost 80% of the total and they leave their families behind and the remaining parent usually mothers who are always remain at home left to bring up our family resulting in temporary single parentage which is happening now in myself that I always suffer being temporarily single most of the time. It is quit hard to raise the children without the father but we need to face it just for the good future of our children and our family as well. Often, emotional strain, loneliness and anxiety become the major problem for both husband and wife.  While the immigrant husband’s great worry is jealous caused by rumor and gossip from relatives and friends. The wife has interference and meddling form their in-laws and addition to the problem of rearing and disciplining the children.  The resultant increase in income has lead to values disorientation. The household standard of living rises acceptability and there is tendency  to be extravagant and the purchase of consumer goods rather than investments which earn income.

Every family must prepare themselves for a serious re-examination of values and practices. In many instances we will have to break with the past and adjust to the future. There is enough evidence of the viability of every family to make these simple adjustments and to ensure our survival in life. The function of our family is being more and more absorbed by many other social organizations such as the church and the school, but every family will remain as a great source of emotional and psychological satisfaction.

The Life of Every Filipino Family

First of all let us know first what the meaning of family is. The family is the oldest human institution and in many ways it is the most important in each and every one of us and the most basic unit of our society. Whole civilizations have survived or disappeared depending on whether family life was strong or weak. Every family has existed since earliest times and will undoubtedly exist as long as we are living in this beautiful earth.

Families make up the basis of every society because we serve three essential needs that are found everywhere. First, the family is a means of producing children and continuing the human race. Second, our family provides for the protection and early training of our kids. Our children perhaps are the most helpless of every creature. They must be fed, washed and dressed. They cannot moves by themselves, as our kids grow older they must be trained to become responsible members of the family as well as in our society. Lastly is that our family must set up a division of labor so that they will grow up and knows how to work in their own and can contribute something in our family. The head of the family or the father usually earns the living while the mother looks after the household. Both parents care for our children we gradually assume responsibilities as they become able to do so.

In every family, our child needs physical, moral and spiritual, intellectual and cultural nurture. Their physical needs like food clothing, shelter health insurance and physical care are all essential for the physical growth of our children and all members of the family. It is also important the moral and spiritual care like comfort of love, good habits and attitudes correct actions and speech and spiritual enrichment provided by some of our religion. Values should be emphasized in every home as ideals of sympathy, cooperation and obedience, trust and adhere to principles.

We the parent or the husband and wife should be good models to our children because what they see from their parent is what also they follow. So we need to se to it that all our doings are in a perfect way if possible so that they will grow as a better person. Usually the cause of broken homes is the misunderstanding and quarrels between husband and wife. Thus if all virtues and values are observed and followed religiously, no doubt it is an effective improvement of every Filipino life.